Freeze gyaan not eggs! Confused people aren't having babies

 Freezing eggs is becoming very popular. People who don't have strong family ties are  busy getting certificates, degrees, and good jobs. Some say having children isn't  worth it because the world is tough for kids. Many activists and people who call themselves  liberals don't like having kids.

Sridhar Vembu, the founder of Zoho, told students to have kids in their twenties instead  of waiting for degrees and good jobs. This is a smart idea. Today, this means getting  married in the mid-twenties and having kids by thirty. Only people who are not educated, not good at work, and don't perform well have big families and take advantage of  benefits without helping society. The  number of educated and smart people  is  decreasing quickly.

Because of stress, bad food, poor living conditions, and lack of good meals, many adults have health problems by the time they are fifty. By sixty, when they retire, they worry  about their children’s education, marriage, and settling down. If they are lucky enough  to live to seventy, they still have to face the pressure of their kids not settling down because they got married and had kids late. Doctors say the best age to have kids is between twenty-five and thirty-five. If someone has kids after that, the children might  have lower IQs and health issues.

Economists and honest thinkers are warning that our population pattern is becoming a problem. Educated and hardworking people have fewer or no kids, but less educated  and poor performers have more children. These people use their votes to get government support from taxpayer money. Free benefits for these people are now  a big part of  Indian democracy.

In the 1980s and 1990s, half the newspapers were about marriages. People who were  highly educated from IIMs, IITs, and DU got married in their mid-thirties and had kids  by thirty. Being single or having no kids was never an option. After marriage, people  were expected to have a baby within a few months.

Now, there’s an age of no kids. “Hamare do” has turned into “hamare ek” and now into “hamare no child.” Young people are asking, “Why even get married?” Many Gen Z  people prefer to live together without marriage. Some only have pets, and some have  no  kids at all. In a 2021 interview with Fox News host Tucker Carlson, then-Senate- candidate Vance complained that the U.S. was being run by Democrats, corporate  leaders, and “a bunch of childless cat ladies who are miserable at their own lives and the  choices they've made and so they want to make the rest of the country miserable, too.”

Young people today are escapists. They don’t want to grow up   and take on family responsibilities, using studies and careers as an excuse. They are scared of being  parents and don’t want to care for aging parents and other family members. Being a parent is not tough and tiring. Taking care of elderly relatives is even  harder and more stressful in small families. This has caused problems in relationships. Kids today don’t know  about  grandparents, aunts, uncles, or other family members who could help raise  them. They  live with the blame of “pitra-dosh,” “matra-dosh,” and “kul-dosh.”

Nuclear families now have to handle all the stress of raising kids, especially the mother. If she has a job, she has to balance work and home life— managing a team of help at  home like a maid, cook, driver, nanny, and cleaner. Surprisingly, with all that support  and good jobs, Gen Z parents are more stressed than the previous generation, who had lots of kids but not much money and no house help. This is the downside of having  small families.

Having kids in the mid or late twenties may feel heavy at first, but by the time parents  are forty, the kids are more mature and can take care of themselves. Plus, grandparents  are around to help. But if parents have kids after forty, they might have more  resources  but less time and energy. Kids will also worry about their parents’ health when they are in their fifties, and it will be a topic of discussion in parent-teacher meetings. No matter  the age, raising children is tough  in nuclear families. Nobody has a support system to  help raise kids. There’s no solution to this problem. Even  neighbors  don’t help  in  today’s flat culture, and the blame is on Gen Z for not building good relationships with their neighbors.

Many highly educated couples from IIMs, IITs, and DU say, “We can’t raise a child.” They can’t afford expensive schools or foreign universities for their kids. It’s not what the kids want. It’s peer pressure or a social trend. This attitude has created unhappy  children and unhappy couples. It’s a big crisis in society. Kids need love, care, and  companionship, not this hype.