Freeze gyaan not eggs! Confused people aren't having babies
Freezing eggs is becoming very popular. People who don't have strong family ties are busy getting certificates, degrees, and good jobs. Some say having children isn't worth it because the world is tough for kids. Many activists and people who call themselves liberals don't like having kids.
Sridhar Vembu, the founder of Zoho, told students to have kids in
their twenties instead of waiting for degrees and good jobs.
This is a smart idea. Today, this means getting married in
the mid-twenties and having kids by thirty. Only people
who are not educated, not good at work, and don't perform well have big
families and take advantage of benefits without helping society. The number of educated and smart people is decreasing quickly.
Because of stress, bad food, poor living conditions,
and lack of good meals, many adults have health problems by
the time they are fifty. By sixty, when they retire, they worry about
their children’s education, marriage, and settling down. If
they are lucky enough to live to seventy, they still have to face the pressure of
their kids not settling down because they got married and had kids
late. Doctors say the best age to have kids is
between twenty-five and thirty-five. If someone has kids after that,
the children might have lower IQs and health issues.
Economists and honest thinkers are warning that
our population pattern is becoming a problem. Educated and hardworking people have fewer or
no kids, but less educated and poor performers have more children. These
people use their votes to get government support from taxpayer money. Free benefits for
these people are now a big part of Indian democracy.
In the 1980s and 1990s, half the newspapers were
about marriages. People who were highly educated from IIMs,
IITs, and DU got married in their mid-thirties and had kids by thirty. Being single or having no kids was never an option. After
marriage, people were expected to have a baby within
a few months.
Now, there’s an age of no kids. “Hamare do” has turned into
“hamare ek” and now into “hamare no child.” Young people are asking,
“Why even get married?” Many Gen Z people prefer to live together
without marriage. Some only have pets, and some have no kids at all. In
a 2021 interview with Fox News host Tucker Carlson, then-Senate- candidate Vance complained that
the U.S. was being run by Democrats, corporate leaders, and
“a bunch of childless cat ladies who are miserable
at their own lives and the choices they've made and so they want
to make the rest of the country miserable, too.”
Young people today are escapists. They don’t want to grow up and take on family responsibilities, using studies and careers as
an excuse. They are scared of being parents and
don’t want to care for aging parents and other family
members. Being a parent is not tough and tiring. Taking care of elderly
relatives is even harder and more stressful in small families. This
has caused problems in relationships. Kids today don’t know about grandparents, aunts, uncles,
or other family members who could help raise them. They live with
the blame of “pitra-dosh,” “matra-dosh,” and “kul-dosh.”
Nuclear families now have to handle all the stress of raising kids, especially
the mother. If she has a job, she has to balance work and home life—
managing a team of help at home like a maid, cook, driver, nanny,
and cleaner. Surprisingly, with all that support and good jobs,
Gen Z parents are more stressed than the previous
generation, who had lots of kids but not much money and
no house help. This is the downside of having small families.
Having kids in the mid or late twenties may feel heavy at first,
but by the time parents are forty, the kids are more mature and
can take care of themselves. Plus, grandparents are around to help. But if parents have kids after
forty, they might have more resources but less time and energy. Kids will also worry about
their parents’ health when they are in their fifties, and
it will be a topic of discussion in parent-teacher meetings. No matter the age, raising children is tough in nuclear families. Nobody has a support system to help raise kids. There’s
no solution to this problem. Even neighbors don’t help in today’s flat culture,
and the blame is on Gen Z for not building good relationships with
their neighbors.
Many highly educated couples from IIMs, IITs, and
DU say, “We can’t raise a child.” They can’t afford expensive schools or foreign universities for their kids. It’s not what the kids want. It’s peer pressure or
a social trend. This attitude has created unhappy children and unhappy couples. It’s
a big crisis in society. Kids need love, care,
and companionship, not this hype.

